You Don’t NEED Dairy to Get Calcium

You Don’t NEED Dairy to Get Calcium

  • Why do we need Calcium
  • How Calcium works with other vitamins/minerals in your body
  • Symptoms of low calcium
  • Foods that can raise Calcium
  • Supplements that can increase calcium

Why do we need Calcium?

At some point during childhood, we all have heard our parents tell us to drink our milk so we can grow big and strong… While Calcium is critical to bone health, we can get adequate amounts from food sources other than milk.

Truthfully, milk is not necessarily the enemy. I know lots of people that do well on milk but the difference is typically that they are consuming raw milk. The way that milk is processed and the antibiotics that are given when needed have negative effects on our system.

Calcium does more than just make bones healthy. It also helps to keep blood from clotting which is why you may have heard taking it with vitamin K2 can be a good idea. It also helps our muscles to contract so that we can walk, use our arms and carry our kids around. On top of that, it even helps our heart beat. I’d say that is a big deal…

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Calcium is found to make up 1.5-2% of body weight in humans and is by far the most abundant mineral. It is very important to take vitamin D3 if you are taking a calcium supplement. Vitamin D3 aids in calcium absorption and metabolism, it also helps the calcium be absorbed in the digestive tract and helps to regulate blood calcium levels. This is critical because if there isn’t enough calcium in the blood than the parathyroid gland will simply release extra parathyroid hormone and that is not good because that will pull calcium out of the bones to ensure that the blood gets enough. This means that even though calcium is predominant in the bones that the body will sacrifies the bone calcium to give it to blood calcium. Hello, osteoporosis…

Calcium is an alkali mineral that is found in the Earth’s crust. In Latin Calcium comes from calc and it means “lime”, such as limestone. The calcium supplement that is often used by people is derived from Dolomite, which is a calcium-magnesium earth mineral; the body is able to use this form as it is slightly soluble.

The problem that can arise is that dolomite is often mixed with lead in the earths clay and precautions need to be taken when purchasing this product.

If you have high oxalates and eat food such as spinach, almonds and chocolate on a regular basis that can interfere with absorption as well. With adrenal issues on the rise, we have to watch as everyone is encouraged to increase sea salt. Although this is extremely helpful, the excess salt can increase calcium loss in the urine. Sugar is also another culprit in reducing calcium absorption.


I personally struggled with high oxalates which caused me to suffer from IC pain.   I realized that adding a calcium supplement to my daily regime reduced the pain significantly as calcium binds with oxalates.   

Low Calcium Symptoms

According to University Health Daily News, some symptoms include:

    • Heart issues and/or chest pain
    • Fatigue
    • Muscle cramping and/or spasms
    • Numbness around the mouth
    • Difficulty swallowing
    • Course hair
    • Muscle weakness
    • Brittle nails
    • Psoriosos
    • Dry itchy skin
    • Tooth decay
    • Osteoporosis symptoms (backache; a gradual loss of height and an accompanying stooped posture; fractures of the spine, wrist, or hip)


Foods that can increase Calcium:

 So, how do we address food when it comes to calcium?  Milk is by far the highest calcium ratio food source and lactose helps calcium absorb but that does most people no good as they cannot tolerate milk.   We can look at green leafy vegetables but they tend to be high in oxalates causing more issues.  Nuts could be an alternative but what do you do if you are allergic plus the fact that nuts contain higher levels of phosphorus than we may want.

Better solutions may be foods such as cauliflower, broccoli, peas and beans such as pinto, aszuki and soybeans.  Molasses, figs raisins and apricots are also good options.  



Supplements to increase Calcium:

Calcium absorption also becomes less efficient as we age and taking a a supplement for this may be necessary.  Calcium aspartate and citrate will need less vitamin D3 to absorb, however calcium lactate and carbonate will need more.  It is important to work with someone who can advise you which form is best and also how much vitamin D you would require.  You will also want to make sure that you are balancing calcium with magnesium and ensure that you take vitamin K2 as well.  Vitamin K2 aids in directing and works synergistically with the others.    I recommend looking at CanPrev brand D3+K2 – Organic Coconut Oil Base Softgels.

Talk with your doctor about testing your calcium and if you would benefit from a supplement. 

Before you begin throwing all these vitamins into your mix, you will want to address stomach acidity and by that look at the level of hydrochloric acid being produced.  Hydrochloric acid is very important in digestion and aids in absorbing calcium.  I am a fan of  Thorne – Betaine HCL & Pepsin.  Main absorption of calcium happens in the duodenum as it is more acidic.  Calcium is fantastic in helping b12 absorb properly but watch out because to much calcium can deplete zinc, iron and mangenese.

I recommend that if you do start a supplement to boost calcium, that you order a calcium/magnesium combination or add a magnesium as the two work together.





It is not unusual during my first session with a client for them to ask me about adrenals.  Truthfully, it has become the hot topic of anyone that has researched past the conventional realm and with reason.

The adrenal glands are 2 tiny glands that sit above the kidneys and they hold a lot of responsibility.  Basic knowledge tells us that the adrenals are responsible for the fight/fight reaction but the process is not that simple and when the signals get mixed; all can go array.

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If the clients cortisol is high for example and DHEA level is low, the effect can be: high blood pressure, high blood sugar, blood cholesterol can increase as well as triglycerides, the thyroid becomes effected and so much more.   Of course, these symptoms vary in each person as no one body reacts the same.  If the cortisol and DHEA are low that can indicate that the individual is not able to make enough but we need to look further, is it that they aren’t making or making it and not processing it.

We know that when we reduce the stress load that the DHEA levels can begin to increase and that is a large part of what I do during the 1st month of working with a client.  The nervous system work that I do with a client during 1-1 sessions can directly target what stress needs to be reduced and once these areas are addressed we notice that the cortisol levels can begin to decrease and therefor increase the levels of DHEA.  The brain cannot differentiate between emotional and physical stress so we need to look at where the stress is coming from and what is triggering it.

In my opinion mindset work and the work that I do for the nervous system has to be the first step in healing.  Diet comes next and careful consideration to what the specific client needs.  No, not everyone needs to be on Paleo or Gaps or Vegan…  We then look at lifestyle and detox strategies.  Supplements can be extremely useful but working with someone to determine the appropriate supplements is critical, if not you are simply paying for expensive urine.  For example, high cortisol can benefit from supplementation but low cortisol can require more digging into the person’s health and what is going on.  Many clients have been taking some sort of adrenal blend and if they have high cortisol that can be making matters worse for them.  Low DHEA can benefit from supplementation as well but I suggest not using long term and working with someone to look at what the other hormones are doing before just starting on a supplement.

For example, it is recommended that you take DHEA with foods that contain high levels of good fats in order for the supplement to absorb properly.  I always work with supplements at very low doses and start at a very small amounts.  The lower the DHEA, often suggests the lower amount of supplement needed.  A supplement that has been reduced to its smallest size is ideal, often termed “micronized”.  Working with someone that can help you become educated is key!

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Talk with your doctor if you think that this is something that you would like to look into.

Hormone Imbalance Symptoms

    • Starving all the time
    • Night sweats
    • Hot flashes
    • Weight gain or loss
    • Bloating, esspessially around the midsection
    • Poor sleep
    • Exhausted ALL the time
    • Loss of muscle mass
    • Loss of libido
    • anxiety/depression

1.  Starving ALL the time

This is a tough one because unbalanced hormones can make us hungry and they can make us want to eat the most unhealthy things as well.  That is where a really bad cycle starts because now you may be not just eating more but eating things that the “bad bug” (bacteria and yeast) thrive on.

2.  Night Sweats

This is sucks and you don’t need to be pre menipsoal or meniposal to have this happen.  I had this myself for about 8 years, every single monthly cycle I would wake up SOAKED.  As in wake up and change…  It was soooo frustrating.  If that is you, I recommend after reading this post that you jump over and read my post on How To Improve Leaky Gut

3.  Hot flashes

This one sucks as well…  They all do but when it comes to trying to get through a work day and kids and everything else that you have going on the last thing you want to worry about is suddenly being drenched while chatting with your boss at work.  sigh…

4.  Weight Gain:

First thing that I suggest here is getting your hormone levels checked.  Some women eat the healthy options and still gain weight.  They are doing all the right things, like exercising as well and yet no change.  Ask your doc to check and if it you are insulin resistant and then run a full hormone panel, including cortisol and your free T3 and Free T4.  If you are just starting out then I recommend that you cut out dairy, gluten and refined sugar ASAP.

5.  Bloating

This is a pretty common one and truthfully it is where everyone should start.  Looking into the state of your gut health is imperative in the world that we live in.  We no longer eat the cleanest, healthiest foods or use only vinegar to clean.  We spray our food with chemicals and so it just makes sense to make sure that your insides look as good as your outside.

5. Poor Sleep

This is really hard when you wake up soaked but sleep is the area that you want to focus on after you get working on the gut.  Check  out this post on 5 Foods That Can Help With Sleep.

6.  Exhausted ALL the time

Again, tough when you are not sleeping and you aren’t sleeping because you wake up soaked.  You see the vicious cycle here.  I talk more about what I think may be the deeper cause of all this here, HPA Axis dysfunction and Symptoms.

7.  Loss Of Muscle Mass

Cortisol is often a factor here.  Typical when the endocrine system is on the weaker side it makes more of certain hormones and less of others, hence, hormonal imbalance.  One of the things that happen here is that when there is an over production of cortisol the body will often store fat in the tummy area.  


8.  Low Libido

Even though it really shouldn’t matter to us that much… it does..  Having 0 libido makes us feel like less of a women and less of a wife.  I don’t think any women is ok with not having a low libido let alone no libido.

9.  Anxiety & Depression:

I know I have said they all suck but if I had to pick the worst one this would be it.  After I had my daughter, I had the worst post pardum which is often a case of a drop of progesterone.  I have suffered horrid anxiety and depression and I wish it on no one.

Now what?  How do balance your hormones?

Start with the basics if you haven’t already:

  1. Change the way that you eat:  NO refined sugar (I call it white death), 0 gluten and 0 dairy.
  2. Move your body.  No need to go join a gym.  You are probably to exhausted.  Start doing more around the house, I know, you probably already do a lot but start working one specific tasks that you might enjoy like redoing a room or painting a small wall.  Just move your body.  The “bad bugs” live LOVE low oxygenated environments so get the oxygen cycling.

Next, recommend you read The Body Keeps The Score by _____________________.  You can grab it Here

Remember that this will take time and there are many more tips that I will share with you but start here and be gentle with yourself!

HPA Axis Dysfunction and Symptoms

HPA Axis Dysfunction and Symptoms

HPA Axis Dysfunction and Symptoms

Adrenal fatigue is probably the most common phase that my clients start with when they begin work with me.  They have studied and researched what adrenals are, they understand that they are glands that sit on top of the kidneys and their importance in the stress response.  From there, what I have noticed is that they then feel the adrenals are the prime culprit of all of their distress and/or symptoms. Adrenal fatigue in my opinion is a new epidemic and it is so much more than just a pile of symptoms.  

The symptoms that come along with adrenal fatigue are many and range drastically.    Anxiety, depression, detachment from reality, headaches, stomach issues and so on.

In the beginning women start with an emotional overload while researching.  They begin searching for the symptom that is most bothersome to them. Only then, while reading, they realize that they also do have the odd bloated stomach, indigestion, rash and so on.  This leads them into an altogether different platform of research as they begin to look at candida, mthfr, lyme, chrons, SIBO and so on.

After spending countless hours on research on this platform, they may run across a random post or opinion that someone has about the adrenal glands.  After a whirlwind of emotional up and downs thinking that they finally found the root of their issues, they are amongst yet another methodology of illness…. adrenals…

One connection that I noticed in my years of teaching was that a common denominator with those suffering for a chronic period of time was that they all seemed more sensitive in general.  They all seemed to be empaths. They not only had symptoms but had an emotional connection to the symptoms as well. The trauma that occured in their lives seemed to have hit on a very deep level and healing emotionally or energetically from that trauma seemed far out of reach.  We all have trauma, but I began to wonder how and why some were able to process this trauma better than others.

Diagram of the HPA axis

Adrenal fatigue can cause many symptoms.


What are the Adrenal glands and HPA axis?

The adrenal glands do not work solo.  The adrenal glands themselves are the size of a walnut, triangle shape and there are 2 glands that sit on top of each kidney.  These glands make and release cortisol, estrogen and testosterone and help to regulate function of every tissue, organ and gland in the body to keep balance during stress.

One book that I recommend is ADRENAL FATIGUE by James L Wilson.  You can find it HERE

Stress = Cortisol…

Cortisol has benefits such as it acts as an anti inflammatory and anti oxidant so it is useful for allergies or autoimmune issues.  That means that cortisol is used in eating foods, converting food proteins and lipids to energy sources, distributes fat around the waist and face (along with other areas).  Normalizes blood sugar, heart function and digestive function as well. Source

Cortisol even affects blood sugar because it works with the insulin in your body to keep healthy levels of blood sugar into cells for energy.  

Makes sense right… Stress = release of cortisol = raise in blood sugar = needed energy

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What if cortisol is low??

Boil a pot of water and don’t add fresh water = slowly empty pot.  

Low level cortisol = low level blood sugar = hypogylcemia = sugar craving

Adrenal glands have 2 main parts that have different functions

  1. Outer (Adrenal Cortex)
  2. Inner (Adrenal Medulla)

Adrenal Cortex (Outer part) = 2 types of corticosteroids – glucicorticods (signaled by the hypothalamus/pituitary gland) and mineralcortcoids (signaled by the kidney).  Source


Hypothalamus says release corticotrophin releasing hormone, then the pituitary says got it and releases adrenal corticotrophic hormones.  The adrenal than say, ok, and make corticosteroid hormones!

The 2 types of glucocorticoids:

  1. Hydrocortisone 
  2. Corticosterone.
    • Hydrocortisone (cortisol) deals with fat, protein and carb conversion into energy and helps control blood pressure and heart function.
    • Corticosterone with with hydrocortisone to aid with the immune responses and helps to reduce inflammation. Source

Remember mineralcorticoid?  The main hormone is aldosterone and this is signaled by the kidney.  Helps with salt balance and controlling blood pressure.

Yup, blood pressure is directly related to your kidney!

The medulla of the adrenal does not perform vital functions but it is really important.

The medulla is signaled by the nervous system when stressed.  Remember the neuro hormones back when we talked about the hypothalamus. Source


  1. Epinephrine (adrenaline)
  2. Norepinephrine (noradrenaline)
    • Epinephrine is fast and reacts to stress by increasing heart and blood rate.  It also increases blood sugar.
    • Norepinephrine can actually cause high blood pressure because it constricts blood vessels

                      A great book to read and one I highly recommend is THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE by Dr. Bessel van der Klok.  This book focus’ on brain, mind and body in the healing trauma.  You can find it HERE

So, let’s put it all together

HPA = Hypothalamus, Pituitary gland, Adrenal glands


This is where the Vagus Nerve comes in!

The nervous system and endocrine system connect via this HPA axis!!!!  YUP! It is all starting to pull together.  Let’s go over the three organs and what they do now.


This guy is an almond-sized gland that links the endocrine and nervous systems. It sends messages from the brain to the pituitary gland and also to adrenals. (source)

It is responsible for many hormones, such as:

    • Oxytocin
    • Thyrotropin-releasing hormone
    • Corticotropin-releasing hormone (CRH)
    • Adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH)
    • Gonadotropin-releasing hormone

Pituitary Gland

The one is about the size of a pea and sits at the base of the brain near the hypothalamus. It is referred to as the “master gland” because its hormones control the thyroid, adrenals, ovaries, and testes.

It is responsible for hormones like:

    • Adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH)
    • Thyroid-stimulating hormone (TSH)
    • Prolactin
    • Growth hormone

Adrenal Glands

This gland is about the size of a walnut and sits on top of each kidney.  This is a powerful gland as it controls the “fight or flight” response. Both of the glands have 2 parts:

  1. Adrenal cortex
  2. Adrenal medulla.

The adrenal cortex is basically the outside of the gland and the medulla is the inside.  

The Cortex is responsible for: Source

  • Hydrocortisone, a.k.a. cortisol
  • Corticosterone
  • Aldosterone
  • DHEA and other sex hormones

The adrenal medulla is responsible for:

  • Adrenaline, a.k.a. epinephrine
  • Noradrenaline, a.k.a. norepinephrine Source


Connecting the vagus nerve and HPA  — WHAT IS HPA AXIS DYSFUNCTION?

Another book that I have found helpful HEALING DEVELOPMENTAL TRAUMA  by Laurence Heller Ph.D and ALine LaPierre Psy.D.   This book focus is on how early trauma affects self-regulation, self image and the capacity for relationship.  You can find it HERE

“Depersonalization disorder may be associated with dysregulation of the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis, the area of the brain involved in the “fight-or-flight” response. Patients demonstrate abnormal cortisol levels and basal activity.” (Source)

The Hypothalamus, pituitary gland and the adrenals all work synergistically to regulate mood, immune support, libido, metabolism and digestion to name a few. Source

What Causes Leaky Gut?

What Causes Leaky Gut?


Why is Gut Health soooo important?

Gut health is imperative. Often the starting point of most symptoms. It is important for everyone, it is one of those things that we all have in common. Maybe your ultimate goal is weight loss, maybe you are exhausted all the time or have no energy to do the things that you used to or so badly want to, stomach pain, gassy, it always leads back to the state of your gut.

Of course, we all know that the gut is were certain things happen. We learn the basics at an early age. Food goes in, poop comes out. However, as easy as that sounds, it is much more complex and many are suffering due to the lack of gut care. Use of antibiotics, a stress (who doesn’t have some level of stress…?), environmental toxins and food choices are seriously affecting your overall health. Loads of ladies tell me that they eat the cleanest diet and yet they still have a chronic list of symptoms. The thing is that your gut needs to not only digest the food you eat but also and more importantly absorb it. Eating healthy food is just a portion of what you need to be doing to stay healthy. Eat as many cucumbers as you want but if your stress is uncontrollable and you are releasing excessive amounts of cortisol, it won’t due you any good. Same goes for supplements, or mostly I call, expensive pee… I see countless women purchasing loads of supplements looking for the next fix to their symptoms but if the body cannot absorb them; expensive pee.

What do you mean my gut is leaky?

Referred to as leaky gut, simply put means that the lining of your intestine, the section that acts like a barrier has become compromised and is not doing its job. Think of it like a fence that you put up to keep the neighbors kids out of your yard but a bunch of screws came loose over the winter and they keep crawling through to play. Those holes from the loose screws now let large particles to slip through the gut membrane and enter into the bloodstream. This is not ideal because the body does not understand and assumes that those particles are bad and turns on an immune response which then leads to a whole pile of issues such as food allergies and many autoimmune conditions.

What causes Leaky gut?

The way that foods are being processed plays a large role. The additives, pesticides, chemicals are not easily absorbed and so they can cause small tears in the lining. Grains especially are being processed in away that the body is unable to break them down and as weakening our digestive function. Sugar, aka white death is a massive trigger food as well. Refined foods, antibiotics, drinking alcohol, and of course stress are all culprits. I believe most women have many signs and signals from the body before they are willing to pay attention to their gut health and by the time that the do.

Ok, so how do I know if I have leaky gut?

The easy symptoms to identify by are bloating, diarrhea, gas, burping, constipation or diarrhea but those are the easy targets. Almost any symptom can be brought back to gut health. Why? Because symptoms are a reflection in most cases of inflammation and inflammation starts in the gut with those tears and particles escaping. Many people think that once they are in this cycle that they will never get better but I don’t believe that.

How can I test to see if I have leaky gut?

Almost everyone at some point will be considering what testing they should or can have done. If you suspect that you have leaky gut, you have several options if testing is something you want to pursue.

Don’t worry, you don’t have to have a colonoscopy or an endoscopy to check it out.
1. OATS test
2. Comprehensive Stool Analysis
3. Urine test – Lactose/Mannitol test
4. Blood test checking for IgG and IgA antibodies

How Do I Heal my Leaky Gut?

The biggest factor to consider here is the length of time that you ignored those signs and symptoms and double or triple it. It takes time to repair damage and most people give up before they are halfway there.

TIPS to start rebuilding the gut lining.

1. Avoid all processed food. NO sugar, NO gluten and NO dairy. These are the 3 basic major inflammatory foods. Once you run an IgG test you can remove an trigger foods as well.

2. Focus on healthy fats such as avacodo, coconut and nuts. Chicken stock is the BEST option. Boil for under 4 hours if concerned about histamine.

3. More often than not, as in always, stress is the leading contributor. You may not want to admit it and think that once your body is all better, you won’t feel stressed but you can chase the chicken and still won’t get anywhere until you work on your stress.

4. Supplements. This is very different for everyone but a good starting point is L-glutamine, probiotics and cod liver oil. L-Glutamine is great because it plays a role in rebuilding the structural lining of your gut. Probiotics replenish your good bacteria and push out all the bad stuff. Cod liver oil is getting more popular now and provides omega 3 fatty acids, which target inflammation and helps to lower it.

5. Work with a coach. Build a health team. SO many think they can do all of this on their own until it is too late and they are in the doctor’s office. The other thing I see often is once feeling better, women stop all the hard work they put in and wonder why they feel bad again. Hire someone professional and pay the same way you would to maintain your car to help you build a regime that works for you.

If you are looking for a coach to guide you with this, I can help!

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How to pick a supplement

How to pick a supplement


…Vitamins, Minerals, Herbs, Oh My…


Once someone has narrowed down that they need a certain supplement, how the heck do they decide which one to choose?

It is so hard with all of the products available to know which ones are the best quality and furthermore, if they even contain the ingredients that they state…

Here are some TIPS to help you out.


1.  Test It!

There is a neat test that you can do at home to see if a supplement is breaking down the way it should. The supplement must dissolve properly or really, why bother even taking it? So, just put the supplement into a cup of body temperature water, which is roughly 99 degrees.

Do this while watching a good show because it needs to be stirred for about 30 minutes (stuff doesn’t sit still in your body once you swallow it after all)… The other key is to try and keep the water at the 99 degrees (again, your innards stay the same temp roughly). At the end of 30 minutes, the supplements should have broken apart/down and now a powder or fully dissolved.

During that time, the pill should completely break apart, with its contents either turning to a powder or dissolving in the water. If you do this with a chewable, enteric-coated or timed-release pills it won’t really work for obvious reasons…


2. Check out the bottle for a third-party certification:

A third party certification indicates that the supplement has undergone quality testing as well as provides reviews and confirms ingredients.


3. Check wording:

Wording like “proprietary” formulas/blends.

Those are the words that tell you that the company does not need to tell you how much of each ingredient is in that product and that can be dangerous… and also a waste of your time and money if you are looking for a specific ingredient.


I challenge you to take a look at your current supplements and give these 3 steps a try.  I even made a easy to follow worksheet for you that will give you a lay out to follow! 

You can access that right below, just tell me where to send it!


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For Anxiety-Related Insomnia

Tossing and turning ALL night.  Been trying to sleep for 4 hours.  Can’t seem to stop thinking.  Don’t even no what you are thinking about anymore.

Health really suck sometimes. I am not one to pretend that it doesn’t. Nope… ask anyone of my clients.

I share a lot of my own journey with others and the things that I have gone through have been awful.  Some worse than what other people have gone through and some don’t touch the surface of what others have gone through.

Why am I saying that?

Because at some point I notice we negotiate of symptoms. You know… I shouldn’t feel bad because at least I don’t have ________ or noone understands because they don’t have what I have.

Education is important here and understanding that the brain cannot weigh the amount of hurt it is going through when in paralyze state.

Because when you are in paralyze state the brain CANNOT tell the difference between trauma. It cannot tell the difference between emotional and physical trauma.


When you get triggered, the brain doesn’t know that you aren’t in the trauma itself. This would be why you are getting triggered in the first place. If the brain wasn’t reacting the mind would be able to say everything is ok and it all end there.

This is how my ptsd works for me. Nope, not a doctor… Just a mom, women and wife that has been diagnosed with ptsd on multiple occasions.

  • When my daughter went to brownie camp all weekend this weekend. My body went into paralyze because my brain signaled that she could be dying just like she did at birth. (pronounced deceased and brought back).
  • When me son falls and cries, my body goes into paralyze because my brain thinks he is going unconcious again from the vaccine I let him get at 18 mths.
  • When my mom talked to me at my niece’s wedding shower today, my body went into paralyze because my brain thought she was leaving again like she did when I was 14 years old.


Non of these thing were happening again and I have done enough mindset work around each one to be able to recognize, process, accept and rewire. This allows me to continue on having a fantastic day!

That was not something that I could do years ago. My brain/mind/body connection would have been shot by example 3, I would have told my husband (with full belief) that I was sure I was dying, I would have come home and crawled into bed and spent the rest of the day hyper aware of my symptoms. I would have likely been assessing each symptom on google to continue my despair.

So, what is it that is happening when in these triggers?

The HPA axis is getting triggered via the hypothalmus down the vagus nerve and setting of the nervous system.

Read more about that in this post I wrote:  HPA Axis Dysfunction and Symptoms